It is so easy these days to come across articles detailing what men want from women, how to get him to commit to you, how to keep your man etc. But I seldom see articles or lists on how to keep your woman, how to make her the best wife or best girlfriend or generally what women want. A couple of guys generally state that ladies are complicated and hard to please, but just like there are general rules on how to make a man happy, so also are there some general rules on how to make a woman happy. I have postponed writing this article for a while but I think it is high time, I wrote it. So fellas, it's the 21st century, you aint the only ones who need to be taken care of, we ladies also have our wants and needs and unless you
We like ATTENTION!
Yes, just like you do. we also like it when we are paid attention to. We need you to spend quality time with us. A relationship is like a seed, if you nurture it, it will grow good fruits and vice versa. The guys that are referred to as 'players' whom you wonder why good girls keep falling for simply know this rule. You need to pay attention to your lady. Compliment our looks and mean it, be interested in what goes on in our lives. How many men pick up the phone to call their ladies just to find out how the day is going? to ask whether she needs help with the groceries....etc
We do not like LIES!
I have heard a couple of times that when you tell your lady the truth and the whole truth...she will not believe you but when you lie to her, she sometimes believes you wholeheartedly. Listen fellas, we do not like to be lied to. It is just very easy, once we discover that you are lieing to us, it becomes very hard to believe you. Now when you say the truth and it is ridiculous to us..which is the case in most times. The disbelieve in/on our faces is actually that of "Are you kidding me? What the h*** were you thinking?
We want you to TREAT us RIGHT!
Very Simple, Respect us! Do not talk about our habits with your friends or make us look bad in front of our own friends. When you say something, mean it!!!! Men generally play around words and events just to favour them and we get angry because we expect you to understand better. We may be fools for love, but we are not that dumb. When we are upset, we need you to acknowledge that we are upset and make amends. It would also not go down well with us if the same issue that got us upset initially repeats itself because we already make a mental note that your erstwhile apology was on the surface.
We need to spend time with our FRIENDs too
No doubt, nature has confer on us the duty to take care of the home and the family. Nevertheless, we also need to sharpen our saws to become better persons and to take care of you and our kids. Naturally, we end up giving up much more than you as we grow in life but being there for us to enable us take some time off to refresh and live would not be a bad idea.
We need you to be sensitive to our moods
There are somethings we cannot control because we have hormones just like you do. Our monthly periods are natural and no matter how much we prepare for it, we still have mood swings and our bodies react differently. We break out with acnes, loose our appetite and are sometimes generally moody and depressed. How many guys out there help with back rubs, feet rubs or simply just cuddling. These hormones drive us crazy and because we need to function as though everything is fine, it would not be a bad idea to be more accommodating during these periods.
The little thoughts count for us
Well, nature that has conferred on us so much responsibility with regards to taking care of the home has also made us very soft and emotional. Thus we pay attention to the minute details, we remember anniversaries of our first date, first kiss, first day we set our eyes on you and a lot other firsts that you may not even begin to imagine. Nevertheless, the least we ask is that you remember our birthday, valentine day, dating/wedding anniversary, kid's birthday etc. You do not need to break bank to get us gifts ( it is not like we would mind if you do) but seriously, the thought does count more than anything. Those days are special to us and although you may view them as just any other day, we get really hurt if you do not do something special on those days.
to be continued.......
These rules do appear simple. I have performed and still performing some of them.
ReplyDeleteI also wonder why if I do certain things dis wk and it works and I try them subsequent week, it doesn't count as a commendable act.
Nevertheless, I use this opportunity to plead wit fellow guys to implement most of these suggested practices in their relationships. God is our strength