June 25, 2013

Do women have unrealistic expectations???



I have started to brood over whether as women; we have unrealistic expectations of our spouse or spousal equivalents.  Of course, the fact remains that the same rules will not apply to everyone but needless to say, my experience in life, my own expectations of those who surround me and listening to what my fellow ladies expect of their men, I am inclined to say that we ladies have unrealistic expectations.

But seriously who will blame us?? Our nature as emotional beings plays a very big role in this if we look at it. Of course, one also shouldn’t undermine the fact that we grew up watching the lovely prince go through all sorts of ordeal in order to rescue sleeping beauty, so why shouldn't our men do the same for us.


To make matters worse, our men also outdo themselves in the promise aspect. Apparently it is very easy to say what you are going to do or what you feel you can do but actually doing it is another story.  How many women can actually say that in very trying times especially when they needed money, (for the sake of argument) that even if their boyfriends or husbands do not have at the time, it never crossed their minds that the man should be able to borrow the needed amount to solve their cash problems??

Also how many women can say they do not expect their man to make the first move of reconciliation after any disagreement, need I say that this includes when it is glaring that you are the one at fault.  The common excuse we use is 'he said he loves me: thus he should accept my imperfections.  Unfortunately, the men during the first few months of a relationship do not mind as they cannot stand the rife, however, as things get more committed, individual perceptions, nature and beliefs come to play.

I may even say that we are actually wired to use these occurrences to make the man in our life prove their love to us. The more bizarre the occurrence, the better for us! The question now is what do we do about this? I know a man is not typically not wired to change diapers, feed a baby, cook, be domesticated, be sensitive, etc but if I can learn to drive, change bulbs, change a car's tyre, paint a house.....he should be able to learn those too, right????

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